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How do I deal with sibling rivalry?


My kids seem to fight constantly. They can be so mean to each other! I feel like I’m constantly mediating and sorting out their differences, and sometimes I just want to walk away. But I worry they will grow up hating each other if I don’t help them smooth things over. My siblings and I are so close, and I don’t want them to miss out on that. — Losing it...


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When shame encounters the God who is Love


Here’s a composite memory: I am five, eight, twelve, sixteen years old. I’ve sassed my mother, or lied to my father. I’ve ruined a new dress, stayed out too late, misbehaved in church, or ignored my chores. I’ve failed in some way, trivial or terrible, and I’ve been caught. But the most painful part of the memory is not the discovery. It’s what happens after I’m caught, after I apologize, after I’m punished and sent to my room. The darkest part is the shame....


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How do I stop worrying about things that could go wrong?


Even though my daughters seem generally ok, I spend so much time worrying about them and wondering whether I’m messing them up. How do I cover the basics like teaching them morals, manners and kindness, while still making sure that they respect themselves AND that we have a good relationship with each other? Ack! I feel like there is so much that can go wrong. —Worried...


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