Cutting and Self-Harm: A way through the pain


For the last several months, my 15-year-old daughter has been acting withdrawn and secretive, and getting upset whenever I ask her what’s wrong. She’s also only been wearing long sleeve shirts, even in this warmer weather. Yesterday she opened up enough to show me her arms, which have multiple scratches and cut lines on them. She’s been cutting. I still don’t know why. I told her we’d get through this together, but I feel terrified. I don’t know how got here, so how can we make our way out? — Heartbroken Mama...


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How do I deal with sibling rivalry?


My kids seem to fight constantly. They can be so mean to each other! I feel like I’m constantly mediating and sorting out their differences, and sometimes I just want to walk away. But I worry they will grow up hating each other if I don’t help them smooth things over. My siblings and I are so close, and I don’t want them to miss out on that. — Losing it...


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Wondering about my teen daughter and weight


My early teen daughter has begun gaining weight. How do I let her know that she’s beautiful and that weight doesn’t matter, but also help her make better choices? Should I get involved or ignore it? I have several friends who had a weight problems growing up and have struggled with self-worth when they were teens. I don’t want my daughter to have to deal with that, but I also don’t want to cause further issues. How do I push against society’s standards of women’s beauty but also help her make healthy choices? — Wondering about Weight...


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How do I support my daughter through lockdown drills?


My daughter is going into kindergarten next year and will have to take part in the school’s lockdown drills. She’s a really anxious kid, and I’m worried that the drills will terrify her. Also, theĀ thought of having to prepare her for school shootings makes me feel overwhelmed, teary, and aĀ little furious. What can I do to manage my own emotions and make the experience less scary forĀ her, too? — Anxious Mom...


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How do I stop worrying about things that could go wrong?


Even though my daughters seem generally ok, I spend so much time worrying about them and wondering whether I’m messing them up. How do I cover the basics like teaching them morals, manners and kindness, while still making sure that they respect themselves AND that we have a good relationship with each other? Ack! I feel like there is so much that can go wrong. —Worried...


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